With Easter week upon us and the themes of death and resurrection all around me in both my work and my personal life, I have spent quite a bit of time pondering these concepts. I have reflected on them, read about them, meditated on them, and felt deeply into them. What I am coming to realize is that there can be no resurrection without a death. Death, be it of a person, an animal, a relationship, a business, a situation, a ______ (fill in the blank) is, among other things, a call to growth. This does not mean that there is not sorrow and pain. It simply means that when we choose to stay present to our feelings, where we neither indulge them nor deny them, we discover that in feeling our feelings a pathway is created. Dr. Alan Wolfelt calls this the path through “the wilderness of grief.” On the other side of the grief is the resurrection; the new life.
We all grieve loss. Death, of any kind, is a loss. Our challenge is that we live in a society that tends not to allow space for that grief to be expressed. Mourning is the expression of that grief. Healthy grief is about mourning the loss, for it is in the mourning that reconciliation with the loss is possible. It is in the mourning that resurrection is inevitable. As we celebrate Easter, and the beginning of Spring, may we all be gentle with ourselves and others as we remember to mourn our losses and welcome the new that seeks to grow from within. In this way we are transformed.
I wish you all a Happy Easter and a Blessed Spring.